Looking after you

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There is no right or wrong way to feel grief. It may help to know that emotions can show themselves in physical ways, such as appetite problems, physical aches and pains. Improving your physical well being, even in small ways, can help to reduce feelings of exhaustion, isolation or helplessness.


1. Exercise

You might not want to exercise if you are tired or feeling very low. However it is very important to try to
care for both your mental health and your physical health, as they are both interconnected. Exercise (even gentle exercise) can boost energy levels, be therapeutic, improve your mood and keep you healthy.

However, these physical aims should be achievable. It is important to be kind to yourself and to avoid feeling pressure to improve your physical health. Giving yourself space and time to grieve as well is just as valuable.

2. Manage stress

Worry and anxiety about all kinds of things are very common in bereavement. Sharing worries with
someone close to you may help you, or you could contact our email address or call Child Bereavement UK's helpline 0800 02 888 40. Calming activities may also help you relieve your stress, keeping fit and active, writing down your thoughts and talking to people are other ways siblings manage their stress.

3. Sleep

One of the biggest effects of bereavement is a loss of sleep, although this does not affect everyone. If you are having trouble getting to sleep, see our 'top tips for stopping insomnia (not sleeping)' section. Not sleeping might affect how you cope with stress, handle your emotions and make daily life feel even more difficult.

4. Adapt your diet

You might have lost your appetite or eat at irregular times of the day, particularly if your sleep is disrupted. But, eating well can help you have more energy, even if you are feeling low. A balanced diet is important to look after yourself.


These are just some ideas to help you look after you. Whilst not all of these ideas will affect you, it is important to look after yourself physically. By eating healthily, getting sleep, managing stress and keeping fit are all physical ways to help your emotions.